I read something this morning that inspired me to write a blog… in addition to that, I just started this new blog, so i figured i should have at least one thing on here written by me… right?
I want to thank Ray and Marie, the two most EPIC people on the planet for helping me set this up too! The website works like clockwork, it’s so snappy, handles like a dream… I’ve never experienced anything like it. If you’ve been on the SS website, you might have an idea of what i’m talking about 😛
Now, I read this article on a popular blog i occasionally read, and i found myself feeling a little anxious as i read it. I’m going to provide a snippet, and i’d like to talk about it.
“People have a tendency of saying that they are concerned about me and are warning me because they love me. But concern is not love. Concern is what happens when the mind is preoccupied with anxiety and negative focus as a result of distrust.”
I’m not sure i agree with this. The idea that if someone has concern for you, they are… trying to sway you to the dark side? Focusing on you TOO HARD with negativity and anxiety?
Lol, does that look anything like this?
If someone was to come up to me and say “Hey brother, listen. I see what you’re doing, i see what you’re trying to create. You’re a buffalo heading for the cliff right now, and let me show you why”; I would turn and listen to them, and see what they have to say.
That line “Concern is not love”, is too absolute of a phrase. Concern CAN be love. It can come from a loving space of awareness that says “If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’re going to hurt yourself, I’m telling you because I love you and I don’t want to see you get hurt.”
Sometimes, you need to take that action just to find out for yourself. I had to do that, many many times. Ray often would tell me “Look, why are you even talking to these guys? Just look at the vibe, you can see that they’re only interested in you because you’re popular, not because they actually care.”
And i would always respond “I know you know what you’re talking about, and i still need to find out for myself.” I would go through the experience, find out what’s true, and then be on my merry way, onto the next one. 😛
It’s funny, there hasn’t been a time yet when he’s been wrong.
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By the way, there are two sides of the coin here. How it’s given, and how it’s received. It’s not just about you, the One receiving the suggestion. And it’s not just about you, the One giving it. It’s about both of You.
How did You tell the person that you were concerned about them? Did you come at it from an angle of distrust and fear? Did you come from a space of love and security?
And how did You receive it? Were you open to hearing their perspective? Did you ask questions about it, in order to gain a deeper understanding of where they were coming from, rather than immediately assume they were trying to sway you to the forces of evil?
Sometimes, people do care enough to have concern about you. When they do, I’ve always found that it’s not best to blow them off first thing, but find out where they’re coming from first. What are they trying to accomplish by telling you that?
Are they throwing you in front of the bus… or are they trying to stop you from jumping out there yourself?
We are One